Shared rooms, shared care
Community guidelines
Last updated September 15, 2026
Keep it welcoming
Treat people with respect. Do not harass, threaten, impersonate, spam, or share someone else's private information without permission. Do not use afterthat for illegal content or activity.
Remember that a room can include people who have just met. Make space for different backgrounds and viewpoints, keep disagreements focused on ideas, and respect a clear request to stop contacting someone.
Protect people and access
- Share only information, photos, links, and messages that you have permission to share.
- Do not publish passwords, magic links, private contact details, or another person’s sensitive information.
- Do not impersonate someone, create misleading profiles, send spam, or repeatedly request DMs after a decline or block.
- Do not probe, overload, scrape, or try to bypass rooms, memberships, bans, or other access controls.
- Do not use afterthat to coordinate illegal activity or to threaten someone’s safety.
How moderation works
Organizers can remove messages in the event and series rooms they manage. Members can remove their own messages, including in DMs; a removed message becomes a visible “Message removed” marker. Organizer authority never grants access to members' DMs.
An event ban removes access to that event. A series ban revokes access to the series and every event in it, and removes the affected memberships from those rooms. Event-only bans remain separate. Lifting a ban lets the person try to join again; it does not automatically restore memberships. Bans and message removal do not erase existing message history.
A DM request requires the recipient's acceptance before the conversation can continue. Either participant can block the other person from a shared-room profile or existing DM. Blocking closes current DMs and prevents new requests, while shared-room membership and messages stay unchanged. Declined and blocked DMs stay available as history, but cannot receive new messages.
Report abuse
Members can report a message or another member from an event or series message menu or room profile. Choose the closest reason and add only the details needed to investigate. A report does not copy the message body. The reported person does not receive the report, reporter identity, or any support escalation notice. When three different current members of the room report the same message, it is hidden from everyone, including its author, pending review; the author is not notified. An organizer of the room can restore it, or service support when the author is an organizer. Reports are unavailable in DMs.
Eligible organizers review reports privately for the organization that owned the room when the report was made. That private record stays with the original organization if a room later moves or is deleted. Reports involving an organizer are also flagged for service support. We may remove content or restrict access when the situation calls for it. If someone is in immediate danger, contact local emergency services first.
Copyright complaints
If you believe content on afterthat infringes your copyright, email help@afterthat.chat with the subject “Copyright complaint” and include:
- your physical or electronic signature, or that of a person authorized to act for the copyright owner;
- identification of the copyrighted work you believe is infringed;
- identification of the material and where it appears, such as the room link and the message date or author, so we can find it;
- your name, postal address, telephone number, and email address;
- a statement that you have a good-faith belief that the use is not authorized by the copyright owner, its agent, or the law; and
- a statement that the information in your complaint is accurate and, under penalty of perjury, that you are the owner or authorized to act for the owner.
Many rooms are private, so a clear description can help when you cannot share a link. We may request more information, remove or disable access to the material, and let the member who posted it know. Knowingly misrepresenting that material is infringing can create legal liability.
If your content was removed after a copyright complaint and you believe that was a mistake or misidentification, you may send a counter-notice to the same address. Include your physical or electronic signature; identification of the removed material and where it appeared; a statement under penalty of perjury that you have a good-faith belief it was removed by mistake or misidentification; your name, postal address, and telephone number; and a statement that you consent to the jurisdiction of the federal district court for your address (or, if you are outside the United States, any judicial district where SECUNDUS LLC may be found) and will accept service of process from the person who submitted the complaint. We will review it and may restore the material as the law permits.
We may close the accounts of members who repeatedly infringe copyrights.
What happens after a violation
Depending on the situation, an organizer or afterthat may remove a message, limit room access, ban an account from an event or series, block a DM, or close an account or room. We consider the conduct, its impact, repeated behavior, and any information provided in a report. Serious threats or illegal activity may be referred to appropriate authorities where permitted or required by law.
These guidelines work with the Terms of service and Privacy policy. If you need help with an account choice, visit Help.